Montauk: Travel Guide

    Montauk Staycation 2018

A Complete Travel Guide

 

Hello Darling,

I received so many direct messages this weekend asking me all about the details of my trip to Montauk with Taylor. We had such a lovely get-away “stay-cation”, celebrating his birthday. We literally did not want to go home. If you are from the eastern end of Long Island, NYC, NJ or the surrounding eastern region; you must take a little trip to Montauk. From the sandy beaches, delicious seafood, homemade ice cream, trendy shopping and fudge/candy shops- you will be in heaven. All of the details and things you need to know, will be in this guide. I hope this is helpful and if you have any questions, feel free to ask me! What a wonderful way to kick-off the summer.

 

Dining:

SCARPETTA

For Taylor’s Birthday dinner, I made a reservation at Scarpetta restaurant in Gurney’s. The atmosphere was charming, elegant and had a romantic feel. We ate dinner overlooking the sandy beach and clear-blue ocean. If you are looking for a romantic anniversary, and or celebration spot, then this is the place to eat at. If you are starving, I don’t suggest eating there to fulfill your appetite. Taylor and I left hungry and ready to order a pizza to bring back. The portions are very small, but very tasty and filled with flavor. The menu consists of primarily Italian dishes. They make fresh homemade pasta and their speciality is the “lobster ravioli.” This is a romantic and trendy spot and will give you all the Montauk, beach vibes. After dinner, we took a walk along the trails to the beach and watched the sunset. On our way out, we visited the little cafe by the front entrance, where they served delicious gelatto. Tay got a huge sprinkled sugar cookie!

(Our view from the dinner table)

LUNCH SPOT

Tacombi

If you are looking to grab a quick bite to eat in town, Tacombi is the BEST spot in town. If you are a fan of Mexican food and tacos- you must stop here for some delicious margaritas and chips & guac. The aesthetic is adorable and totally gives you the summer vibes, while dining. I totally recommend this restaurant for kids and families. It has a fun atmosphere and is perfect for a quick bite.

 

Other Spots I recommend for food: 

  1. Harvest On Fort Pond- Another romantic spot/ evening dinner. They open at five and start taking reservations at 3 pm.
  2. The Lobster Roll- For the seafood lover
  3. Muse- a great trendy spot for young adults (great night life)
  4. The Surf Lodge (Beach party vibes)
  5. For breakfast- Montauk Bake Shoppe (The donuts are to DIE for and they make awesome egg sandwiches.)
  6. For Dessert- John’s Drive in ice cream (homemade and DELICIOUS!)

 

Where To Stay?

Taylor and I stayed in an Oceanfront beach rental at the Beachcomber. To be honest, most of the spots in Montauk are not luxurious and trendy, but I was actually pleased with our stay here. The room was extremely spacious, clean and overlooked the ocean. We didn’t need much. We just wanted a clean room, kitchen and ocean view. There were many young families in the rentals; which was nice to see and understandable considering these units had kitchens (Not as much partying.) We felt very comfortable, safe, relaxed and would definitely return. This was a last minute birthday surprise trip, and everything else was booked up. I wanted to book Gurney’s, but sadly it was sold out. I used www.booking.com for the best available price and everything worked out perfectly!

(Our view from the balcony of our room)

 Where we would stay next time: 

Gurney’s Resort –  

If Gurney’s wasn’t so booked up, I definitely would have booked this for the weekend. The aesthetic, the accommodations and the resort grounds are just beautiful. They have three different restaurants on site, valet parking, cabanas for rent, hammocks for a restful nap on the beach and a beautiful spa for relaxation. They recently renovated the premises and I am obsessed with how it turned out. We would love to visit in the off-season, when it isn’t as crowded. It is a blissful, romantic and trendy place for young couples celebrating an engagement, milestone and or a weekend getaway.

Ruschmeyer’s –

Last year, I visited Ruschmeyer’s and loved the camp-style vibes. There trendy boho chic styled rooms are perfect for the beach lover. They have a ton of events and a very active night life.  They have fun events, such as movies under the STARS and daytime events and games. I look forward to checking out Ruschmeyer’s my next visit.

Montauk Manor-

The Montauk Manor is a historic, charming castle-like hotel. The outdoor facilities resemble buildings in England and the UK. There is a beautiful garden, that overlooks the ocean. I would recommend this resort for families, but the rooms seemed older and in need of renovation.

Things to Do & Places to See:

1. Obviously you MUST visit the beach when staying in Montauk.

The public beach is Kirk Park Beach. There are public restrooms and the town is within walking distance, as well as the supermarket. The Beachcomber (where we stayed) did have a private beach, but we wanted a restroom that we could use. There are lifeguards on duty at the public beach and we found that it was not as crowded there too.

We had an overall beautiful day.

 

 

2. The Montauk lighthouse

You must, must, must climb to the top of the lighthouse. The view is so cool and is a great thing to do with your family. After viewing the lighthouse, taking photos; we climbed the eroded rocks all the way to the edge of the water (Another great photo opportunity).

 

3. Main Street

 

You guys, all of the shops along Main Street are charming and quaint. Each one carries unique clothing, accessories, antiques, jewelry, home decor and more. One of my favorite little shops is the Strawberry Fields florist. The outside is unique, rustic and adorned in flowers. I adore this town and I always leave with a few souvenirs.

 

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“Saltwater heals everything.”

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The Day I Met My Prince Charming (In -250 degrees)

Hello Darling,

 

       It has been a few weeks since my latest post. Things quickly became busy with my show opening in South Carolina and my family, as well as Taylor coming to visit. After many rehearsals and long hours of work, the show has finally opened. I am ecstatic to be in the swing of the run and I am truly enjoying the downtime, exploring the beautiful areas of South Carolina. After introducing Taylor on Yourdarlingstyle’s Insta; I received so many Dms asking for me to write a blog post on how we met. Thank you to all of my followers for your encouraging words and love. If you have been following me for a while, then you certainly can recall some of my dating horror stories, heartbreaks and total loss of hope with dating in general. I prayed for my prince charming and searched near and far.

“It was THEN, when I least expected it, even in -250 degrees, Taylor was able to defrost my heart.”

Before leaving for my theatre job, many of you remember how sick I was. I couldn’t get to the bottom of things and had tried many medications, remedies and doctors. Being that I was so ill, I was focused on my health, I was not looking to meet someone at that moment. My mother said to me, “You will meet someone, when you least expect it.” I continued to giggle and roll my eyes; because that seemed to me to be further and further from the truth. My best friend’s mother had recommended I try Cryotherapy, which is a natural healing treatment for injuries, illnesses and asthma/allergies using subzero temperatures. I gave it a shot and met the owner; Taylor. Taylor helped me into the Cryo chamber, where I froze at -250 degrees for about 2 minutes. Basically, you stand in a giant tube-like machine or chamber, which looks similar to a spaceship. Your body is freezing and you are just dancing around in your birthday suit waiting for the few minutes to end. My BFF’s mom introduced us and he had sent me a message before meeting. Not thinking anything of it, we started to text and talk more and more each day. I found myself making quite a few trips to Cryology- for extra treatments. The treatments were actually helping, and little did I know it would repair my broken heart as well.

 

I was frozen in fear, as my heart has been broken more than once, I was cautious and fearful, yet felt the need to continue our conversations (sometimes staying up all hours of the night.) I couldn’t stop speaking to him and didn’t want our conversations to end, as our connection was immediate and strong. Sometimes when you just know, you know. After our first date, we instantly connected and knew we had something unique, special and worth pursuing. Knowing that we had so little time before I left for SC for two months, we saw each other as much as possible. We just couldn’t get enough of each other. You know when you watch those romcom movies and they show love at first sight; well that’s how I felt about Taylor immediately. Before leaving for contract, Taylor helped me to get my health back into check and assisted me in finding remedies, foods and supplements that would work, as well. He was my saving grace, in more ways than one. I truly feel that God hand-picked Taylor come into my life. Was this a coincidence? I think not.

 

I dated for a few months after my last heartbreak, but nothing materialized from any of the dates. I was ghosted, ignored, disrespected, and many times I was just left wondering, if there would even be a second date. Something was missing. I was missing that deep, spiritual, soulful connection, and couldn’t find someone who just cared about me for me. I was exhausted from all the superficial conversations and the emptiness I was feeling after the few unsuccessful date attempts. Taylor never made me second- guess one thing and always, ALWAYS lets me know how much I truly mean to him, even from the very beginning. When you find the right man, you will never have to question his feelings or what you mean to him. It will just feel right and meant to be.

 

Saying goodbye to Taylor for 47 days sounded dreadful. Our adventure and journey was only beginning and we had to put it on “freeze” for a few months. Once I arrived to SC, we joked about how funny it would be, if Taylor came to SC to visit for a few days. “Imagine explaining to our families- Oh hey, we just met, but we are spending a baecation in Paradise.” One week later, Taylor surprised me and booked a 5-day trip to visit me. I actually became tearful; because I didn’t even have to ask him. It was something that he truly wanted to do, and right then and there, I knew how special Taylor was. He was certainly willing to go the extra mile to make ME feel special.

 

After many FaceTime calls, text messages and snapchats, Taylor finally arrived safely with my MOTHER to visit me. (Taylor and my mother already met at Cryology, where I was receiving treatments.) I was filled with anxious butterflies and worried about how the trip would go. All I can say is that I actually CRIED when he left. Our emotions and connections grew so much stronger and I never truly thought I’d find my better half. God has a mysterious way of working things out when we least expect it and has a beautiful plan for our lives. When I finally trusted him with my journey; blessings began to pour out. I feel like the luckiest woman in the entire world. I FINALLY have found my true love and Prince Charming. Fairytales truly do exist, and although I had to freeze to meet him, Taylor was worth “melting” for.

 

(Here are some pictures my mother took of us here at the Westin Resort in Hilton Head Island)

 

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Self-Care (Guide to Feeding the soul, spirit and body)

Hello Darling,

     First off, if you are new to my blog, thank you for reading. Many of you requested that I share my self-care journey from this past month. It is no secret that I am constantly on the go- running from one audition to another. Sometimes I run myself ragged and forget how important it is to take the time to take care of myself. There is only one you. Don’t ever forget that.

  This past month, I experienced some major curveballs, disappointments and things that were just thrown at me. I needed support, love and peace. Sometimes we don’t understand why things happen, but they do. While climbing over this mountain of disappointment, I found things that lifted my spirit, fed my soul and cared for my body. I am excited to share my spiritual journey with you all, and I hope you take the time to CARE for yourself and give it the love it deserves.

SOUL:

Community– Being an actor, I’ve always felt that I needed to be a part of something. I love the feeling of being surrounded by other people that share the same passion as I do. I think it’s important to surround yourself with other human beings that are genuinely there for the same reason. Whether this be a support group, a bible study, an art class, book club or new class. Find something that you are passionate and can share with others. I joined an online women’s support group and it’s a beautiful community.

Hobby- Investing so much time into theatre and my craft can sometimes drain my soul. I needed to find something else that was a creative outlet, but excluded theatre. Hence, why I started to blog. Blogging gives me the opportunity to create, express and explore. Find something else outside of your norm, that brings you joy.

Facebook Detox- I know, I know. How can you be a media influencer/ fashion blogger and delete Facebook? I deleted it for a week and it was the most invigorating experience. I needed the detox and needed to escape. We find ourselves comparing and criticizing when we see other’s posts. These little reminders can cause anxiety and or feed out positive thoughts. For me, the detox was much needed. I want to create a positive environment, not a negative one filled with politics and battle fights over equity vs. non- equity LOL.

Me night– You’re probably wondering what on earth does this mean? This is a night where you literally shut off all electronics and meditate. I typically take a shower and listen to my favorite playlist; baths are awesome too. Turn on some Celine Dion, light that pumpkin spice latte candle, close your eyes,  just breathe & relax. Practice breathing exercises too. This helps to take in more oxygen and release more negativity/ anxiety.

Putting phone in airplane mode– Oops—you’re mad because I responded to your text five hours later? Not sure about you, but I get overwhelmed sometimes and bombarded with messages. I will then continue to put my phone in airplane mode. This sounds harsh and I used to feel VERY guilty doing this, but it works for me. It’s okay to “un-plug for a little while.” Of course, I get back to everyone.

BODY:

Cryotherapy- Okay, I was SO skeptical at first. I actually didn’t think “becoming Elsa” for 2 minutes would work. If you are dealing with allergies, inflammation, anxiety, stress, struggling with weight loss, an immunity disorder; than I HIGHLY recommend this. I would suggest this to all of my dancer ladies. I visit Cryology in Babylon, Long Island. This place is AMAZING. Cryotherapy is not just your everyday sports ice bath. When you ice your skin, it simply penetrates the skin, which just cools the tissues and muscles, causing blood vessels to constrict. This can be uncomfortable, and can actually freeze and damage the muscle. The cold sensation of cryotherapy does not penetrate the skin, but the body still responds as if it is freezing, and immediately activates a recovery response. This is my new healing magic. I SWEAR by this. If you have any other questions regarding this, feel free to message or email me!

http://www.cryologyny.com

Salt Cave- If you think this is a myth, then you are 100% wrong. I am obsessed with salt caves. I had this lingering asthma cough; and after one hour in the salt cave I wasn’t coughing. This is a magical place of healing. I went home and took a nap and slept through the night. I had been struggling with sleeping for the past week. It is very relaxing and the salt actually helps loosen mucus. If you have been struggling with asthma, allergies and or upper respiratory issues; try this. Salt therapy is risk-free and patients, merely sit back in one of the salt cave treatment rooms. In the 55 minutes you sit there, the healing micro-climate of a natural salt cave is reproduced by the most advanced device called Breeze Tronic Pro and clears lung passages.

https://www.peconicriversalt.org

(Please note, I am in no way shape or form a medical professional, these are just things that worked for me.)

Nutrition– They were not kidding when they said, “you are what you eat.” I have always had a fast metabolism. I would finish an entire personal pizza and be ready for another meal. I was known for keeping snacks and candy in my purse. I would eat some type of candy every single day. Until one day, it caught up to me and affected my health. This past month, I cut out sugars and greasy foods. I suddenly felt a huge change and energy. Nutrition is just as important as working out. I finally learned that.

Magnesium– Did you know that magnesium is a natural supplement to heal anxiety, asthma and upper respiratory issues? I add two tsp of Magnesium into my water bottle every morning. This actually has kept me calm and feeling at peace. I highly recommend this natural supplement. Of course, as always check with your doctor first.

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MIND:

Reading- Put those scripts, study guides and textbooks aside. Pick up an actual book and read. I personally needed to read something besides my script for a few days. I have been reading The Let Go life by, Joseph Prince. Get lost in a book. Embrace the adventure; jump into the story.

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Spiritual Faith– Whatever this means to you. Whether you need to meditate, attend church or read inspiring  quotes. Find where your faith stems from. For me, my faith is in God. I read my daily devotionals every single day and spend time in the word. I join in on Elevation Church live, every Sunday. I NEED that to fuel my soul. It’s very important to me, and it keeps my focus on the right things. We all have different beliefs, but embrace your own and rest in it. Faith is the things unseen.

 

 

See, it becomes this rotation cycle for me. Free the mind, fuel the body and cradle the soul. Once I find things that free the mind, do things that take care of my body; my soul is happy. A happy soul = a happy life. Thank you for reading and I hope this inspires you to do a little self-care this month.

 

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M

 

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Chasing Grace

 

 

 

Hello Darling,

For With God nothing shall be impossible- Luke 1:37

   Today I am going to get extremely personal with you all. So many of you ask me how, I keep a smile on my face even in the hardest of times. I continue to chase grace. I believe in it, chase it, trust it & be still in it. Trust me, I of course feel emotions because I am human, but I choose to live a positive lifestyle. How you may ask? My faith. Without my faith, I am not sure I would  be able to get through this career, let alone the day. Being an actor, there is a lot of rejection and not feeling worthy enough. I definitely get the question; what does it mean to be “strong in your faith”. To me- faith is the complete trust in someone or something. I have faith in God, that all things work for the better. I trust in him and my faith is strong and dwells within my soul.

 

Overtime, I realized that there were things that were out of my control. I couldn’t control getting sick at an inconvenient time. I couldn’t control it raining on the day of my photoshoot. I couldn’t control the small things that would go wrong. These situations and instances are out of our hands. It wasn’t until this past year that I truly needed to rely on God for strength and peace. I went through a personal relationship break-up that was far worse than any breakup I’ve experienced. I was completely heart-broken. I felt lost, but it was then that I realized that I didn’t have to be. It was then, that I had no choice but to rely on my faith to keep me strong and able to move on with my life. This does not mean, I don’t have bad days and struggle with this way of living, but it has changed my life. Now, I don’t necessarily mean…I have to go to church every Sunday, I’m saying that I was able to trust in God. (Although, I do enjoy some Hillsong church!) I soon realized that things fall out of place, because he has a better plan for my life. This was not easy for me to understand. When I finally did, it just clicked. I noticed a lot of my everyday worries and fears disappeared. I felt like a new woman. I accepted that God put me in this season to help me grow and grow my relationship with him. Being a type A, perfectionist woman, I was constantly trying to perfect and set up my fate. I then realized that I could no longer do that to myself. I needed to rest and be still.

There were times in my life that God really worked miracles and put me in situations to lead me to the next bigger and better thing. I’ve seen situations in my career, relationships, health and even college. I am thankful that I have the relationship I have with God and that I am able to confidently say that faith is my everything. I definitely find that when I start my day off with prayer or even play my favorite Hillsong album I am off to an amazing start. I also enjoy reading my Daily Devotionals in “Jesus Calling”, by Sarah Young. I know that I will find a man that will encourage me, be inspired by it and fully love me for all that I love and all that I am.

 

 

    There are times when I may look like I have it all together on Instagram, but I am a human being and sometimes I just have to laugh at the silly moments where I would take myself way too seriously. I always say laugh at yourself, it’s good for your soul. I choose to chase grace. I will continue to run after it, secure it in my soul, rest in it and believe in it with all of my heart. “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith.” (Ephesians 2:8-10)

 

 

Here are a few things that I remind myself daily and may help you stay positive and trust your fate:

 

  1. You are loved – John 3:16
  2. You are beautiful- Psalm 139
  3. You are STRONG- Psalm 28:7
  4. You are confident-  Philippians 4:13

 

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10 Cringe-Worthy Things Women Hate When Dating

Dear Men,

Us ladies, thought it was time that we speak up and share our thoughts, frustrations and disappointments in dating recently. It is difficult enough, with swiping, liking and bumbling; don’t make it harder for us. Here are ten cringe- worthy facts women can’t stand through out the dating process and sometimes we don’t even get to the date!

1. GHOSTING- This is my number one pet peeve, it’s actually almost to a point, where it’s becoming way too familiar.
Listen it’s one thing if you’re working or busy etc., but I work two jobs and balance a lot of things in my life. To show actual interest in a woman and then disappear without some sort of explanation stating you’re not interested, is just not acceptable. Leave the disappearing act for magicians. Especially with online dating, ghosting has become the new norm. If I had conversation with someone for a few weeks I would at least have the class and decency to explain why it wouldn’t work out.

2.  BACHELOR TO BE– Saying you were going to be a BACHELOR contestant but “suddenly dropped out. “ this doesn’t sound or make you look more attractive. Unless you are Ben Higgins, this is not something we look for.

3. KID-WIFE FREE LIFE– Simply stating you don’t want marriage or kids after 4 weeks of talking. I mean don’t we think that’s an important factor, especially when dating in your late 20 s or 30s.

4. ANTI-WOMAN– Negatively putting down women or saying we all “suck.” I mean the fact that you’re negatively speaking about women that way leads me to believe you would just say the same to me.
Women want a positive, Charming man. Believe us, men aren’t too perfect either. We all experience different things when dating, but trust me there are some special women out there.

5. PULLING A DISAPPEARANCE ACT– Stating you would like to go on a date every week, but never ask. If you aren’t interested in dating just say so. We don’t care, we just would like to know, so that way we can move on and forward.

6. DITCHER– Canceling a date the day of or not showing up. This is just the biggest disappointment. Goes to show us that you wouldn’t follow through with things in the future.

7. CONTROLLER– Controlling the relationship and creating rules. Saying we can’t text or telling me I’m walking to0 loudly on my feet? Women- RUN if he criticizes your walking. No one wants a controlling man. A relationship is about compromise not criticizing on the way we walk.

8. PHONEPHOBE– When a man says he can’t talk on the telephone… I get it, social media is a huge thing today but a woman would appreciate an old fashioned phone call. How can you build a connection via text message?

9. GROUP-DATE– Dating your friends and not you.  Come on dude, we’re not going on the group date on the Bachelor. Taking your date to a beer garden for the second date and invite 10 male friends to join is not cool. We don’t want to date your friends. We want to date you. Now I’m not saying we can’t hang with the bros in the future, but how can we truly get to know you, if we’re watching you and your male bros chug beers?

10. SECOND CHOICE GIRL–  Being second choice. No woman wants to be your second choice and or have you tell her that. Ghosting a woman after wonderful conversation and disappearing, makes no sense. Then months later, you text her and say that you are interested again….coming out of the blue. Then you disappear AGAIN, after asking for a second chance. Also adding in the fact that you dated someone else but it didn’t work out.  You just don’t do that.

Ladies,
Dating is not what it used to be and I feel for you all. We want that old fashioned romance, that we’ve watched our parents and grandparents have. Stay patient, he’s out there. Although it may not seem like he is right now; he will come when you least expect it.

Listen men,
We know that there are a few good ones out there. So where are you all hiding? I hope these tips explain our frustration and confusion.

With Love,
All of the single ladies out there!

(Please note these all may or may not have happened to me 😉

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