Self-Care (Guide to Feeding the soul, spirit and body)

Hello Darling,

     First off, if you are new to my blog, thank you for reading. Many of you requested that I share my self-care journey from this past month. It is no secret that I am constantly on the go- running from one audition to another. Sometimes I run myself ragged and forget how important it is to take the time to take care of myself. There is only one you. Don’t ever forget that.

  This past month, I experienced some major curveballs, disappointments and things that were just thrown at me. I needed support, love and peace. Sometimes we don’t understand why things happen, but they do. While climbing over this mountain of disappointment, I found things that lifted my spirit, fed my soul and cared for my body. I am excited to share my spiritual journey with you all, and I hope you take the time to CARE for yourself and give it the love it deserves.

SOUL:

Community– Being an actor, I’ve always felt that I needed to be a part of something. I love the feeling of being surrounded by other people that share the same passion as I do. I think it’s important to surround yourself with other human beings that are genuinely there for the same reason. Whether this be a support group, a bible study, an art class, book club or new class. Find something that you are passionate and can share with others. I joined an online women’s support group and it’s a beautiful community.

Hobby- Investing so much time into theatre and my craft can sometimes drain my soul. I needed to find something else that was a creative outlet, but excluded theatre. Hence, why I started to blog. Blogging gives me the opportunity to create, express and explore. Find something else outside of your norm, that brings you joy.

Facebook Detox- I know, I know. How can you be a media influencer/ fashion blogger and delete Facebook? I deleted it for a week and it was the most invigorating experience. I needed the detox and needed to escape. We find ourselves comparing and criticizing when we see other’s posts. These little reminders can cause anxiety and or feed out positive thoughts. For me, the detox was much needed. I want to create a positive environment, not a negative one filled with politics and battle fights over equity vs. non- equity LOL.

Me night– You’re probably wondering what on earth does this mean? This is a night where you literally shut off all electronics and meditate. I typically take a shower and listen to my favorite playlist; baths are awesome too. Turn on some Celine Dion, light that pumpkin spice latte candle, close your eyes,  just breathe & relax. Practice breathing exercises too. This helps to take in more oxygen and release more negativity/ anxiety.

Putting phone in airplane mode– Oops—you’re mad because I responded to your text five hours later? Not sure about you, but I get overwhelmed sometimes and bombarded with messages. I will then continue to put my phone in airplane mode. This sounds harsh and I used to feel VERY guilty doing this, but it works for me. It’s okay to “un-plug for a little while.” Of course, I get back to everyone.

BODY:

Cryotherapy- Okay, I was SO skeptical at first. I actually didn’t think “becoming Elsa” for 2 minutes would work. If you are dealing with allergies, inflammation, anxiety, stress, struggling with weight loss, an immunity disorder; than I HIGHLY recommend this. I would suggest this to all of my dancer ladies. I visit Cryology in Babylon, Long Island. This place is AMAZING. Cryotherapy is not just your everyday sports ice bath. When you ice your skin, it simply penetrates the skin, which just cools the tissues and muscles, causing blood vessels to constrict. This can be uncomfortable, and can actually freeze and damage the muscle. The cold sensation of cryotherapy does not penetrate the skin, but the body still responds as if it is freezing, and immediately activates a recovery response. This is my new healing magic. I SWEAR by this. If you have any other questions regarding this, feel free to message or email me!

http://www.cryologyny.com

Salt Cave- If you think this is a myth, then you are 100% wrong. I am obsessed with salt caves. I had this lingering asthma cough; and after one hour in the salt cave I wasn’t coughing. This is a magical place of healing. I went home and took a nap and slept through the night. I had been struggling with sleeping for the past week. It is very relaxing and the salt actually helps loosen mucus. If you have been struggling with asthma, allergies and or upper respiratory issues; try this. Salt therapy is risk-free and patients, merely sit back in one of the salt cave treatment rooms. In the 55 minutes you sit there, the healing micro-climate of a natural salt cave is reproduced by the most advanced device called Breeze Tronic Pro and clears lung passages.

https://www.peconicriversalt.org

(Please note, I am in no way shape or form a medical professional, these are just things that worked for me.)

Nutrition– They were not kidding when they said, “you are what you eat.” I have always had a fast metabolism. I would finish an entire personal pizza and be ready for another meal. I was known for keeping snacks and candy in my purse. I would eat some type of candy every single day. Until one day, it caught up to me and affected my health. This past month, I cut out sugars and greasy foods. I suddenly felt a huge change and energy. Nutrition is just as important as working out. I finally learned that.

Magnesium– Did you know that magnesium is a natural supplement to heal anxiety, asthma and upper respiratory issues? I add two tsp of Magnesium into my water bottle every morning. This actually has kept me calm and feeling at peace. I highly recommend this natural supplement. Of course, as always check with your doctor first.

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MIND:

Reading- Put those scripts, study guides and textbooks aside. Pick up an actual book and read. I personally needed to read something besides my script for a few days. I have been reading The Let Go life by, Joseph Prince. Get lost in a book. Embrace the adventure; jump into the story.

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Spiritual Faith– Whatever this means to you. Whether you need to meditate, attend church or read inspiring  quotes. Find where your faith stems from. For me, my faith is in God. I read my daily devotionals every single day and spend time in the word. I join in on Elevation Church live, every Sunday. I NEED that to fuel my soul. It’s very important to me, and it keeps my focus on the right things. We all have different beliefs, but embrace your own and rest in it. Faith is the things unseen.

 

 

See, it becomes this rotation cycle for me. Free the mind, fuel the body and cradle the soul. Once I find things that free the mind, do things that take care of my body; my soul is happy. A happy soul = a happy life. Thank you for reading and I hope this inspires you to do a little self-care this month.

 

Xo,

M

 

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Chasing Grace

 

 

 

Hello Darling,

For With God nothing shall be impossible- Luke 1:37

   Today I am going to get extremely personal with you all. So many of you ask me how, I keep a smile on my face even in the hardest of times. I continue to chase grace. I believe in it, chase it, trust it & be still in it. Trust me, I of course feel emotions because I am human, but I choose to live a positive lifestyle. How you may ask? My faith. Without my faith, I am not sure I would  be able to get through this career, let alone the day. Being an actor, there is a lot of rejection and not feeling worthy enough. I definitely get the question; what does it mean to be “strong in your faith”. To me- faith is the complete trust in someone or something. I have faith in God, that all things work for the better. I trust in him and my faith is strong and dwells within my soul.

 

Overtime, I realized that there were things that were out of my control. I couldn’t control getting sick at an inconvenient time. I couldn’t control it raining on the day of my photoshoot. I couldn’t control the small things that would go wrong. These situations and instances are out of our hands. It wasn’t until this past year that I truly needed to rely on God for strength and peace. I went through a personal relationship break-up that was far worse than any breakup I’ve experienced. I was completely heart-broken. I felt lost, but it was then that I realized that I didn’t have to be. It was then, that I had no choice but to rely on my faith to keep me strong and able to move on with my life. This does not mean, I don’t have bad days and struggle with this way of living, but it has changed my life. Now, I don’t necessarily mean…I have to go to church every Sunday, I’m saying that I was able to trust in God. (Although, I do enjoy some Hillsong church!) I soon realized that things fall out of place, because he has a better plan for my life. This was not easy for me to understand. When I finally did, it just clicked. I noticed a lot of my everyday worries and fears disappeared. I felt like a new woman. I accepted that God put me in this season to help me grow and grow my relationship with him. Being a type A, perfectionist woman, I was constantly trying to perfect and set up my fate. I then realized that I could no longer do that to myself. I needed to rest and be still.

There were times in my life that God really worked miracles and put me in situations to lead me to the next bigger and better thing. I’ve seen situations in my career, relationships, health and even college. I am thankful that I have the relationship I have with God and that I am able to confidently say that faith is my everything. I definitely find that when I start my day off with prayer or even play my favorite Hillsong album I am off to an amazing start. I also enjoy reading my Daily Devotionals in “Jesus Calling”, by Sarah Young. I know that I will find a man that will encourage me, be inspired by it and fully love me for all that I love and all that I am.

 

 

    There are times when I may look like I have it all together on Instagram, but I am a human being and sometimes I just have to laugh at the silly moments where I would take myself way too seriously. I always say laugh at yourself, it’s good for your soul. I choose to chase grace. I will continue to run after it, secure it in my soul, rest in it and believe in it with all of my heart. “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith.” (Ephesians 2:8-10)

 

 

Here are a few things that I remind myself daily and may help you stay positive and trust your fate:

 

  1. You are loved – John 3:16
  2. You are beautiful- Psalm 139
  3. You are STRONG- Psalm 28:7
  4. You are confident-  Philippians 4:13

 

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10 Cringe-Worthy Things Women Hate When Dating

Dear Men,

Us ladies, thought it was time that we speak up and share our thoughts, frustrations and disappointments in dating recently. It is difficult enough, with swiping, liking and bumbling; don’t make it harder for us. Here are ten cringe- worthy facts women can’t stand through out the dating process and sometimes we don’t even get to the date!

1. GHOSTING- This is my number one pet peeve, it’s actually almost to a point, where it’s becoming way too familiar.
Listen it’s one thing if you’re working or busy etc., but I work two jobs and balance a lot of things in my life. To show actual interest in a woman and then disappear without some sort of explanation stating you’re not interested, is just not acceptable. Leave the disappearing act for magicians. Especially with online dating, ghosting has become the new norm. If I had conversation with someone for a few weeks I would at least have the class and decency to explain why it wouldn’t work out.

2.  BACHELOR TO BE– Saying you were going to be a BACHELOR contestant but “suddenly dropped out. “ this doesn’t sound or make you look more attractive. Unless you are Ben Higgins, this is not something we look for.

3. KID-WIFE FREE LIFE– Simply stating you don’t want marriage or kids after 4 weeks of talking. I mean don’t we think that’s an important factor, especially when dating in your late 20 s or 30s.

4. ANTI-WOMAN– Negatively putting down women or saying we all “suck.” I mean the fact that you’re negatively speaking about women that way leads me to believe you would just say the same to me.
Women want a positive, Charming man. Believe us, men aren’t too perfect either. We all experience different things when dating, but trust me there are some special women out there.

5. PULLING A DISAPPEARANCE ACT– Stating you would like to go on a date every week, but never ask. If you aren’t interested in dating just say so. We don’t care, we just would like to know, so that way we can move on and forward.

6. DITCHER– Canceling a date the day of or not showing up. This is just the biggest disappointment. Goes to show us that you wouldn’t follow through with things in the future.

7. CONTROLLER– Controlling the relationship and creating rules. Saying we can’t text or telling me I’m walking to0 loudly on my feet? Women- RUN if he criticizes your walking. No one wants a controlling man. A relationship is about compromise not criticizing on the way we walk.

8. PHONEPHOBE– When a man says he can’t talk on the telephone… I get it, social media is a huge thing today but a woman would appreciate an old fashioned phone call. How can you build a connection via text message?

9. GROUP-DATE– Dating your friends and not you.  Come on dude, we’re not going on the group date on the Bachelor. Taking your date to a beer garden for the second date and invite 10 male friends to join is not cool. We don’t want to date your friends. We want to date you. Now I’m not saying we can’t hang with the bros in the future, but how can we truly get to know you, if we’re watching you and your male bros chug beers?

10. SECOND CHOICE GIRL–  Being second choice. No woman wants to be your second choice and or have you tell her that. Ghosting a woman after wonderful conversation and disappearing, makes no sense. Then months later, you text her and say that you are interested again….coming out of the blue. Then you disappear AGAIN, after asking for a second chance. Also adding in the fact that you dated someone else but it didn’t work out.  You just don’t do that.

Ladies,
Dating is not what it used to be and I feel for you all. We want that old fashioned romance, that we’ve watched our parents and grandparents have. Stay patient, he’s out there. Although it may not seem like he is right now; he will come when you least expect it.

Listen men,
We know that there are a few good ones out there. So where are you all hiding? I hope these tips explain our frustration and confusion.

With Love,
All of the single ladies out there!

(Please note these all may or may not have happened to me 😉

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2018: B E H O L D

      Happy New Year to all of the beautiful friends here on YDS. I love this little community we have created. I am finally taking the time to sit down today and write my 2018 Goals. To be honest, this was not an easy task to complete. Did I think that I would be in a different place in my life? Absolutely, 100%. I did learn a lot; despite it being one of the hardest years of my life. I was challenged with things I never thought would be and faced many hardships, as we all do. Through all of the heartbreak, physical pain and health struggles; I fought and continued to believe with a great deal of hope in my heart. Despite those things, I did make a lot of beautiful memories and reached goals I never thought would happen. As I walk into the new year; the word B E H O L D; speaks a great deal to me.

    Behold is to see or observe (a thing or person, especially a remarkable or impressive one). To me; I will observe God and love him for all of the blessings he will bring into my life in 2018.  I can’t look back at 2017 with regret and feel fearful of what’s to come.  I will observe and watch things fall into place. My path is already figured out; and the best part is to watch it unfold. There is so much on the horizon and so much ahead of us. To me it’s like, behold; stand along and be amazed.

 

 

Here are a few of my Goals for the New Year that I will share with you:

 

  1. Join Actor’s Equity Association. For those of you who are not familiar with what AEA is. It is the actor’s union. I am about one long contract away from completing the Equity Membership Candidate program. I am so close and if I book one more equity regional theatre; I will finally get my card. This is something I’ve been working really hard toward accomplishing.
  2. Be Gentle with myself. We all are hard on ourselves. Whether it’s because we ate that extra cookie, or we messed up a huge audition; or maybe we did something to ruin a relationship with a person. Be kinder and more gentle with yourself. You are human and you are not perfect. I know for me, perfectionism has lived with me, through my life. I am going to do the best I can to let that go this year. Time to take care of m e and know that I am already enough as I am.
  3. Reach fitness goals. I think we all can agree on this one. I want 2018 to be the year that I reach my ultimate fitness goal. I want to work the hardest and sweat the most I’ve ever sweated. I started the BBG program and I WILL finish it. I plan to work out every single day with only one day off per week.
  4. Take TV/Film Classes. Now that I have signed with an agent for Television; I want to focus on taking classes and bettering my craft.
  5. L e t   G o.  This is NOT the easiest goal on my list but it’s one that needs to happen. In a way, I think that we all struggle with letting go of the past. Whether someone hurt you deeply or you had a situation that affected your life- we struggle with letting go. I am going to work on letting go of something, that is standing in the way of moving on. Life is too short to dwell on the past. Instead look forward to a brighter and beautiful future.
  6. Rely on my Faith. For those of you that have been following me for a while, know how important my faith is to me. I will go to church more on Sundays or take the time to study the word and journal. I will not lose sight of “him” and continue to make him the focal point of my life.
  7. Launch YDS beauty. I have been saying it for a while now but I WILL launch YDS Youtube channel. I’ve received a ton of tutorial requests and would LOVE to launch it for you guys.
  8. Patience. They say patience is a virtue. I will wait patiently rather than figure out what’s to come. There is no way we can prepare or plan for what’s about to come. I will sit with patience and excitement.
  9. Explore. I want to go on more adventures and explore more beautiful places outdoors.
  10. Fall in love. This is not something that I thought I would be writing down as a 2018 goal. But, I want and would like to find love again. I want to be vulnerable and open up my heart..again. Just allowing God to bring the right one into my life. If it’s not with someone; I want to fall in love with my life, the people that are in it and the things that bring me joy.

 

These are just a few of my goals. Thanks for getting personal with me and I would love to hear about some of your goals! Comment below with your top 2! Happy 2018 and B E H O L D what’s to come.

 

Xx,

Meghan

 

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26!

Hey Darlings,

It’s hard to believe that twenty-six years of my life have gone by. I am truly blessed and fortunate, for the life I have lived so far. I have experienced moments and visited places, I’ve only dreamed of going to. I’ve met so many incredible people and I have the most wonderful, healthy family. Being given the opportunity to pursue my dreams and live them every single day, is a blessing. I can’t thank YOU all enough for your constant love and support on this journey.  I pray and thank God every single evening for the life I have been given. For this special Birthday post, I decided to share 26 fun facts about me. Thank you for sharing another year of my life with me. Here’s to the next 26!

 

 

 

  1. For my first fact; which most of you know already – I graduated college with a B.F.A in Musical Theatre and perform regionally!
  2. I am OBSESSED with anything flavored cotton candy! From ice cream to drinks; I’ll take anything cotton candy flavored. 
  3. I can imitate any Disney Princess’ voice and/or Judy Garland!
  4. I have never swam in the ocean!
  5. My favorite breakfast is Cheerios with strawberries (No milk)!
  6. I have been one Disney Princess (Can you guess which one?)
  7. The most important thing in my life is my faith. (I listen to Kari Jobe daily)
  8. In high school I got the yearbook award for best dressed…(and here we are) =p
  9. I LOVE zoos
  10. I do not wear hair extensions (Because I get asked this daily haha)
  11. I am allergic to fourteen types of ingredients/foods
  12. I’ve never tried fish before
  13. My guilty pleasure tv show is The Bachelor or How I Met Your Mother!
  14. If I had to choose wine or Gingerale…I’d choose Gingerale
  15. I used to dance competitively regionally and nationally from age 5-17. 
  16. I am a cupcake connoisseur 
  17. I played soccer when I was 5 but posed in the goals. My dad even bribed me with sprinkled donuts but I continued to dance…..
  18. I collect vinyl records (especially from musicals and Judy Garland)
  19. My dream dog is a Goldendoodle named Gizmo
  20. My lucky number is 19
  21. My favorite meal is Penne Ala Vodka -( GF and my momma’s of course)
  22. The next destination on my map is ROME!
  23. I LOVE flying on planes, traveling on a train etc. – I do this too often 
  24. I am 5″3
  25. I am 50% Russian/ 50% Italian
  26. I LOVE giving back to charities, children’s cancer organizations and families in need
  27. Because we always add an extra candle….hopefully I can list 26 things I love about my fiancé. (If I ever get one.)

 

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